Monday, January 2, 2012

"It's How I want People to Remember Me"

It's 2012 and with a new year, also comes new goals and a look back at what we have to be thankful for, as well as lessons we have learned.  In my reflection with the new year upon us, I have been struggling.  Struggling for peace and understanding, along with how to let go of being in control and trust...trust the plan God has in store for me and my family.

And then, Sara talked to me...I went to the one place where I knew her wisdom was still present...in her writings.

I thought it might be helpful to all of us if we took a look at Sara's Life Goals. Sara's life here on earth was lived to its fullest and she wants people to remember her through how she lived out these life goals...

1. To not be ashamed to stand before God.

"By now you've probably realized you have a distinct choice to make: just let life happen, which is tantamount to serving God your leftovers, or actively run toward Christ."

"Do you understand that it's impossible to please God in any way other than
wholehearted surrender?  ~ Francis Chan

Sara definitely wasn't afraid to stand before God here here on earth, and if I were to guess, when she met our Heavenly Father, she wasn't ashamed to stand before Him in Heaven either.  As Sara said it, "I realized that being a servant meant all or nothing. A line was drawn in the sand and I had to choose my fear, or I had to choose to completely trust Him. It was an all or nothing choice because one cannot exist if the other is true."

Sara chose to trust.  It didn't mean she didn't have extremely difficult days, but I do know that she was never fearful of what was to come, because she knew He was in control.Sara trusted His control and she was open enough to walk where he lead her.  She never missed the opportunity to be a servant to Him through the circumstances in her life.

2. To fulfill God's plan by living the best life I can with what I am given.

"We are all spiritual beings put here on earth to live out our human existence."

This is something that dad held on to and said about his life and how he was living it. In my humble opinion, Sara and dad did this very well. They were good about remembering who they were...a Spirit born in the image of Christ.

Sara wrote in one of her posts, "I have a mission. A purpose. I am here to live the best life I can with what I am given. I am here to live out this human existence as a spiritual being...a servant to God and His people... before I head back home to Him."

3. To be aware and present in every moment.

"Even though we think of our goals as some future state to achieve, the real goal is always the life of this moment, this moment, this moment." ~ Charlotte Beck

One of the things Sara said was, "just because my hands and feet no longer serve me well physically, I don’t want that to be an excuse to not be the hands and feet of God." Sometimes when our focus is living until (fill in the blank), we aren't really living... the until may never come and then we stop living all together.

I think Sara did a great job of focusing on the goal of "this life of this moment, this moment, this moment." But, she also didn't give up on her dreams in life.

4. To love what I have and not yearn for what I lack.

"It's not about me."

Sara was so great about living a life of...It's not about me. It's about what he can do with her life. She looked at the life she was blessed with as having a purpose. A purpose for others to see their life or relationship with God in a new light. "We don't know what tomorrow holds, but we know who holds tomorrow."

And, that's exactly how she left this world and went to the next...with dignity, grace and teaching us all that "it's not about us."

5. To Spread the Joy, not the fear.

Joy: the unwavering trust that God knows what He’s doing and has blessed me with the opportunity to be a part of it… not despite what’s happening in my life but because of it. When everything earthly feels heavy He gives me an internal lightness that can’t be touched.

Sara made a decision early on to choose joy... and she made that choice every day. She always said, the major word in that rectangle isn't joy... it's CHOOSE. It's looking around when life is difficult and trading every complaint for something beautiful in life that far outweighs it. I know for a fact that she definitely met this goal because there are a lot of people out there that have it "etched in their skin." :)

6. To be intentional in all things.

Sara had a true belief that everything we do, no matter how big or small, it carries with it an impact. She taught us that if we come in contact with someone, we either leave them feeling better about themselves, or worse, but never unaffected. Living intentionally also brings in her 3rd goal of really being present in the moment. We need to be conscious about giving people our complete focus and leaving them knowing they are special.

For Sara, "being intentional is paying attention to what the need of the other person may be and doing my part to fulfill it." I don't know about you, but she was always there when I needed her and always made me feel special!

Sara also wanted to be intentional in being open to whatever God had in store for her. She prayed for guidance and always paid attention to the ways in which God talked to her.

Sara's life Goals were met and then some!  I miss you and love you, Sara!

Sunday, December 18, 2011

Thanks for saying "yes," Sara!

During my reflecting, one of the articles that Sara wrote that keeps sticking in my mind this time of year, is the one below.  I am so thankful to Sara for always saying yes, when it was her time to do it! 

Love you and miss you Sara!

Reposted from December 13, 2010

“You gotta just try to do every thing you can, when it’s your time to do it.”

I was watching Staff Sgt. Salvatore Giunta, who is from a small Iowa town not far from me, receive the esteemed Medal of Honor for bravery shown in active duty. Sal had told President Obama that he was just doing his job, and following advice he had gotten when he first became a soldier.

During his first tour of duty in Afghanistan, his Team Leader said to him:

“You gotta just try to do everything you can, when it’s your time to do it.”

It struck me as the most profoundly simple statement. And while I’m sure it is essential advice for a battlefield, it also occurred to me it’s advice that works in every circumstance for every person trying to follow in Jesus’ footsteps.

And those of his parents.

I am thinking of Mary, frightened and scared, not knowing what to make of this angel standing before her. But she said yes. She did what she could when it was her time to be asked.

And Joseph. Being asked to marry a woman who was pregnant – and not with his child. He was being asked to sacrifice his life and all he had been taught… and he said yes. He did everything he could when it was his time to be asked.

They did their duty. They traveled for the census to be counted. They continually did the next right thing – not because they were promised riches or status or rewards. They traveled, they suffered in a stable to bring a baby into the world without any idea of how they were going to manage next. But they did everything they could, because it was their time to do it.



I hear the story so many times that I begin to assume they knew what the end result of their sacrifices would be. Sometimes I lull myself into thinking I would have made those sacrifices if it meant the Savior of the world could come to do His work.

But then I remember that Mary and Joseph knew no such thing. They knew no more of their future than we do. They didn’t know Jesus would get lost in a temple. They didn’t know he would turn water into wine and heal the sick and bring sight to the blind. They didn’t know their precious baby boy would be beaten and ridiculed and hung on a cross.

They were simply doing everything they could, when it was their time to do it.

It pierces me. It pierces me to know they simply said yes because it was the right thing to do. It pierces me that I, in this life, have so many chances to say yes. It pierces me that every moment of my life could be my time to do everything I can. I may not change the world, but I might change a life. I might be called with an urging in my spirit, and if I choose not to pay attention and act on it, I might miss my moment.

My time to do what I can.

That’s what I am thinking about this Christmas. I’m always overwhelmed and grateful that Jesus came to this world as a baby to save me – thousands of years later – a simple soul not unlike any other.

But this year, I’m wondering how I can be more like Mary and Joseph. How I can do everything I can… now… when it’s my time to do it.

Will you take that challenge with me? Will you look beyond the celebrations and the wrappings and the carols we hum as we busy about our lives – and pay close attention to the little details in the lives of those around you?

Because you never know when it may be your time to do everything you can.

Wednesday, December 7, 2011

2011 One Little Word...PRAISE

Hi, everyone...this is Sara's sister, Laura.  I know Sara would want to follow up on her "one little word for 2011," so I thought I would take some of her thoughts and share them with you...

Sara's one little word to focus on for 2011 was PRAISE...and how did she do?

Like she did at everything...OUTSTANDING!!

Praise made Sara feel centered.  Praise is what helped Sara Choose Joy. 

As I was re-reading Sara's post regarding her choice of the word Praise, the phrase, "It's not about me" stuck out. As Sara was preparing to meet our Heavenly Father, she told us she did not want her funeral to be about her. As we all chuckled and told her it kinda was about her, she adamantly told us NO, she wanted it to be about what she was teaching through her writing, that it is all about Him.  

In Sara's post on Praise, she said, 


"Rather than letting life run me, I take a simple action. I go from my own circumstance to thinking about others. I remember that this life is not about me and choose to give thanks to the God who loves me. That is what keeps my spirits up... it's my focus on spirits other than mine. It's my focus on praising instead of dwelling on my own circumstances. It's not always easy, but it is something I have to choose to do if I am going to live the life He needs me to."


There is that other word, Choose...


On December 5, Pastor Christian Watts gave a sermon titled "Choosing Joy When Life Gives You Lemons." Pastor Watts contacted me and asked if he could use Sara's story in his message.  He read Sara's post on Choosing Joy and reminded me of the word choose...


"I made a decision a long time ago that I was going to choose joy. I even painted a big rectangle on my wall and printed it in big letters so I wouldn't forget to make that choice every day. The major word in that rectangle isn't joy... it's CHOOSE. It's looking around me when life is difficult and trading every complaint I have for something beautiful in my life that far outweighs it. I know, it's that Pollyanna personified thing again... but living joyful beats being cynical any day of the week."


(Here is the link if you would like to hear his sermon.  He did a great job of honoring Sara! Http://vimeo.com/33196922)



Sara chose Praise and she praised Him very well...I will leave you with this final thought from Sara... 

"He knows my past, present and future. He is surprised by nothing. He is with me, never leaves me even when I feel alone, and holds me up even when I think I am standing on my own two feet. He is good. All the time. And I am going to praise Him through all of it."

2012 is right around the corner and as we choose new resolutions or items to focus on, I'm definitely not going to stop focusing on this one...



Monday, November 14, 2011

Thanksgiving in a Year of Loss


Hey everyone...this is Sara's sister Laura. Sara always let us know how blessed and thankful she was despite her circumstances. Although I am not the writer that Sara was, I wanted to let each of you know what her family is thankful for this year...

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In 2010 the loss of dad was BIG … He was a man who filled so much space in a person’s heart and soul.

Dad did everything with his whole heart and soul … He was such a big part of so many lives! He...

Worked,
Played,
Laughed,
Prayed, and
Loved …
 BIG … With his whole heart and soul…

So, what were we thankful for despite the loss of Dad?

We were thankful for all the years we got to spend sharing this life with dad. Thankful for his whole being! His laugh, the twinkle in his eye, the whistle on his lips, the dance in his step, his wisdom and teaching.

We miss everything about him, from his big soft hands to his ornery personality. But, we were thankful that he lived big, played big, worked hard and loved even harder.

And now, in 2011 … the loss of Sweet Sara…

A loss that is BIG … A sister, daughter, aunt, friend who filled so much space in a person’s heart and soul.

Sara did everything with her whole heart and soul … she was such a big part of so many lives! She...

Laughed
Played
Prayed, and
Loved…
BIG … with her whole heart and soul…

So, what are we thankful for despite the loss of Sara?

We are thankful for the 38 years we got to spend sharing this life with Sara. Thankful for her whole being! Her laugh, the twinkle in her eye, the song in her voice, her wisdom and teaching of what it meant to be a true disciple of Christ! We are thankful for how she chose to live Joy each and every day!

We miss everything about her from her gentle hands to her ornery personality. But, we are thankful that she lived and loved big.

We love them, miss them, and are thankful that God chose us to be in their lives … what an honor!

Happy Thanksgiving to all of you. We are also thankful to each of you for loving Sara so BIG!!


Tuesday, November 8, 2011

Choose Joy--Crosspoint Video and Feed

On Sunday, a portion of Sara's story was shared. Far from the farm where she was raised, miles from the cheery condo with her words decorating the brightly hued walls,  individuals gathered and heard her words...the ones she shared here on the blog.

Sara was a girl who lived her life all over the place, despite the constraint of being in the condo.

Her presence was felt and acknowledged far beyond her dwelling spot.

At Crosspoint  located in Nashville,Tennessee, Blake Bergstrom addressed Choose Joy during the amazing sermon series entitled Better Days. 


It was...

powerful

honest

thought provoking

tear causing

Blake spoke on the difference between happiness and joy; he talked of making a choice.

He hit the nail on the head

For those of you who were unable to enjoy the live feed, I'm linking to the video and audio portions of his sermon, as well as notes for it here. Note: It's week 3 Choose Joy.

I'm also going to embed Blake's words here for you to take in...

Sara's choice?  Joy. 

Every. Single. Time.



Saturday, November 5, 2011

Crosspoint.tv

Hi Friends,

Shannon here...

Just wanted to let all of you know that the church Sara attended (online) will be doing a message tomorrow evening about choosing joy and will share her story; it should be phenomenal. You can click here to watch live...

I'll be tuning in at 6 pm central time. For those of you who aren't able to view this tomorrow evening, I will post links later this week so you can enjoy the message as well.

One of Cross Point's pastors, Blake Bergstrom, will be speaking.

The sermon series is entitled "Better Days" which makes me start singing the Goo Goo Dolls and the first two messages are currently available on the crosspoint.tv site....

Here's a brief preview...




One huge thanks to sweet Jessica for the heads up on this; I know we all appreciate the community being able to come together and share in Sara's ripple effect.  


I'm so thankful she lived her life loud, aren't you?

Friday, October 14, 2011

The Blog Dog

Today we are celebrating another joyous occasion in the life of Gitz.  Riley, the blog mascot's Birthday!

Happy Birthday, Riley!!

Along with loving Sara, came loving a very special companion, Riley.  We want everyone to know that Riley is doing great and loving life. Linda, Susie's mom (the one in the middle of the picture below) and Riley are enjoying each other's company.

Linda loved Sara and assisted her by bringing her groceries and running errands as often as needed. Sara wanted to make sure Linda didn't get bored, so Riley is now making sure Linda has someone to pay attention to and treat as a king!

Happy Birthday Riley and thank you for helping bring JOY to Sara's life.  We love you!!